As I said my goodbyes to L.A., I thought OMG! I should’ve remained a virgin. Better still, I could have lived out my life in a convent for nuns who practiced silence – that is, if they accepted non Catholics who could never shut up. 
Honestly, we looked like something out of a John Steinbeck novel with the trunk that my ex, the sperm donor, had strapped with rope on top of my Chevy. That trunk took on a life of it’s own and had the consistency of a metronome as every 500 miles or so the truck would fly off the top of the car – scattering our belongings all over the desert.
Of course Willie and Sammy loved the chance to get out of the car and play. Whenever one of them found my underwear in the sand – they’d put my bra and panties on over their clothes and hop about. Yep! That was a big hit with passers by. The heat was unbearable in the Mojave and our car had no air conditioning. This was a six day journey so you can use your imagination here. It’s worth noting that I left everything of material value behind, i.e., an impressive art and music collection, object d’art collected over the years and all my “night out on the town clothes” (like they would’ve come in handy serving paper routes and cleaning laundromats.) Em had said, “Honey, just leave all those memories behind as you are beginning a new life.” In all the many years that followed, Em never made a bad suggestion. I am a winner in heart and spirit today because of her friendship and sage advice.
The heat became so excruciating that we slept in motels during the day and drove at night. Em had raised 9 kids and always saw to it that we’d stop along the way and get ice cream for the kids. However it was so hot that when Sammy ran up to an outside stand at a service station to get ice cream cones for he and Willie, they melted before he got back to the car. We finally arrived on eastern soil and my physical condition had gone from bad to worse. But for the grace of God, I would surely have had a miscarriage during that long six day journey across country. But Em stuck by me like glue. Once we arrived, she took me to a doctor who was alarmed at how thin I was carrying a 7 month baby and their were serious complications. Although Em had little money, her demeanor was one of such elegance that everyone she encountered assumed that she was a millionaire. She would reply, “Well yes, I am a millionaire – mainly air.” So, true to form, Em set her sites on a lovely first floor, 2 bedroom apartment that had an environmental playground, duck pond and plush green grass that had a country setting. She actually convinced the manager into giving me the apartment with only a payment of the first month’s rent – disregarding the security deposit and the last month’s rent. The manager seemed blind to the fact that I was pregnant with no mention of my ex husband, the sperm donor. Em also insisted that I pay my hospital bill in advance as well as purchase beds for our new apartment – leaving me with very little money. So, I now had a new apartment, two beds and that was it.
The next day, Em drove up in her old – albeit sparkling white 67 Pontiac. I can see it now. She had an American flag attached to the outside antenna. Her car was so loaded with packages that it took all of us to carry in a small folding table and 4 chairs for the kitchen area, curtains, tablecloths, dishes, sheets, towels, bed spreads, a captain’s table lamp for the kid’s room and too many other household necessities to mention….including groceries. She even persuaded a mutual friend to give me his newly purchased couch and chair for our living room by discoursing on the tackiness of having furniture the same color as your carpet. Ha!
Em got me a much needed job working at home – making love beads for a supplier who sold them in Philly. It’s amazing to me how God taught me appreciation by taking away all those things I took so for granted. I was paid 3 cents for each necklace. Some weeks I made as much as $100 which looked like a fortune when you have nothing. All moms know that a kid’s stomach is a bottomless pit. As I began to relax a little, I also began to balloon – to the point where I looked like I was about to give birth to an elephant. Em also assured me that I was not to worry about getting to JFK Hospital -which was thirty minutes away. She said, “When the pains are several hours apart – just call me and I’ll come pick you up and drive you to the hospital – not to worry.”
Read the final blog 3 – Driving myself to the hospital, fully dilated and labor pains 5 minutes apart…no time for Em to get me.
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